sex and the city

okay. so maybe i'll start my own version of carrie bradshaw's column sex and the city. i've watch enough episodes with my roomate eddie that i have some contributions of my own.

tonight's topic is of course about girls, women, and whores. what's the difference you ask? a buddy of mine and kent's from austin told us once that girls love to date assholes, women date distinguished men, and whores love to seek rich men. he didn't say it in those exact words, but you get the picture.

the problem is that there IS no difference in why the female gender are more attracted to these types of guys. so lets sit back for a moment and try to understand what it is that attracts females. of course this is from a guy's perspective so each reader and formulate his or her own opinion on the matter.

put yourself in a girls position at bars and clubs. why are girls hanging out at bars and clubs? some are just having a night out with their girlfriends and enjoying the dance floor with their groove on. some are actually out fishing for a guy to have fun with. none are really there to look for any long term relationships. you would be pretty lucky if you think that you can catch a guy at a club that you actually have a long term relationship with.

from a guy's perspective, we go to clubs to hangout with our buddies and for some eyecandy. it's also a good place where you can practice building your confidence and if you're lucky have a short term physical relationship. in other words, sex. any guy who doesn't think about it has got to be a virgin... or gay. i don't believe that a single normal everyday guy does not have any thoughts about sex throughout the day unless he just doesn't get out and look around.

so back to what attracts girls to guys at clubs. at first i use to think that it had a LOT or even everthing to do with looks. for some that is true, but still those types are not impossible to attract. from pure observation it's REALLY easy to see that girls respond to confidence, even from assholes at clubs. yes, most guys that go pickup girls at clubs are assholes. we're not looking for anything long term. seriously, men are not attracted to little girls intellectually. who would you feel talking to a television. communication is only one way, the tv. and what content do you usually get from girls... shows, fashion, food, shopping, yadda yadda.

intellectually stimulating? i think not. sexually attractive... maybe. potential for short term, definitely ideal. easy to breakup without the messy emotional attactment. am i an asshole for strategizing like that... if i were to rationalize it, no. girls are young and don't know any better. from experience come maturity. to a young girl though, i'm just another asshole on their resume.

now women. they have matured pass the early stages of experiments and heart breaks. at this point in their life, they are through playing with boys and are ready to settle down. some have avoided the BS all together and kept on the track of being career oriented and independent. guess what though.. they are looking for men who have lots of ambition and are motivated just as they are or more. these men also have charisma, and what comes along with that? yes confidence! this scenario is the ideal for the long term relationships.

lets talk about whores. these are your typical gold diggers looking for a sugar daddy to spend money on them in return for short term relationships. guys with money... now what guy with lots of money lack confidence? none that i know of. are these guys assholes? you betcha. they have money to flaunt and girls just come flocking. in this case confidence is just a coincident, but none the less it's there and displayed. these guys don't have to work as hard as assholes with little or no money, but they can still attract whores if not girls as well.

where do i fit in these types of personalities. i don't quite know yet. nice guys DO finish last, so that's one thing i would definitely avoid aspiring to be. nice guys are TOO passive and would let opportunities pass them by waiting and waiting...

and there was my first attempt of a post similar to carrie bradshaw's column from sex and the city. i will have to completely live the single life to report back on my observations and experiments. until next time, good hunting.